What the Feeling That You Are Still Looking For?

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Explaining what "Flow" concept is, based on positive psychology.

Do you want that Ben&Jerry tonight or is there something more significant than it? Some call for adventure perhaps?

The Nature of Feelings

The fact is that feelings are temporary, they come and go. It is also true that they have a different effect on us – positive or negative. Someone can make is excited or angry, for example. And eventually, emotion will fade.

The reality is that we are very reactive, and sometimes that even leads to bad decisions. We buy that junk food that we know it’s bad for our body or we spend too much money on clothes we do not need. Or at least that’s my case…

But what is interesting is that emotions are very shallow.

We get them often, perhaps not in full package, but we have experienced them before. Like a kiss on a cheek, as light as fast it is expiring.

We know how they taste like and have our all-time favorites. And those we try to stay away from. On the other hand, there are those moments that happen during highly accidental that makes us fully immersed. What are they?

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Peak Experiences

This picture is one example of what positive psychology calls “Flow“. You might hear of it as a “peak performances”, “runners high” or “in the zone”. Despite all the labels that we put on it, the experience is still the same. It is very much like that hypnotic feeling that you are doing something beyond your powers. That’s why you also lose yourself there. You are not judging what is happening right in front of you. It is just timeless. And you are creating a new experience for yourself that otherwise, you might find scary or even impossible.

There are a few books on the topic, but the foundation you will find in the person who first describes the phenomena. His name is Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi, hard to pronounce, but not that complicated. In his book “Flow” he describes what it is, how do you get there and much more.

This may sound very out of reality and not accessible experience for ordinary people, but it is. That doesn’t mean that it is easy. People tend to have different flow experiences. In some, it may be easier to trigger in social situations, other in sports or any other activity. Doesn’t matter the activity, it requires a particular competence and skill level. It is that sweet spot between fear and boredom. It is the ultimate challenge to meed your current expertise. And from there, it just flows.

Pushing your self to the limits increases the potential to trigger “flow” experience in sports

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What flow gives us?

  • Hype
  • Serenity and peace
  • Boost your well-being
  • Happiness
  • Deep fulfillment
  • Amazing experiences to share

I hope that article helps out to get up and try new things. Or continue doing the one that still gets you in the zone. Just being there is incredible! If you haven’t been there yet do not hesitate and over thinking it. Lose yourself in practice and it will come. Luckily tasting that yourself will make you chase it for a lifetime.

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