Being effective

What is being effective and how to get better.

What is the single, most important, goal for me?

That is the question we all know we need to ask ourselves to get our priority straight. It is only one thing. Not number one, number two, etc. …  But here it gets a little complicated.

Being effective is not what we are in everything, that is called perfection. And I am sorry, but perfection isn’t the goal. It is a vague dream. 

“Strife for perfection to achieve excellence”

                                                                                     Vince Lombardi 

I like this quote, because it give us the reason to take massive action. But why we need to do more where we want to get more for less time? Isn’t that what is being effective? It is simple, we all want to be there, but it takes time. It takes practice. We haven’t been created with any knowledge or wisdom. We need to put time and try different things until we find something that clicks. Effectiveness is the goal of every modern business, trying to get more for those fixed cost that it is already paying. And it is funny how that transfers to our personal life. Well at least for some of us, who want more of it. We try to do more before going to work. Otherwise we are just chasing other people’s agenda. Sleep, eat, work, repeat. When that might be the case for some entrepreneurs, it is rarely a long-term goal.

How do we measure effectiveness? With time. A simple example. If you produce more units than Tony, for the same time, you are being more effective. Then the boss is likely to keep you longer on work and give you more props. Were that doesn’t mean that Tony isn’t efficient per se. Perhaps he haven’t right, or have been distracted, or he haven’t used the best method. Multiples criteria overlaps here and that’s why the isn’t one solution. Moreover there are many for different situations.

“If you do the right thing at the wrong time you get pain”

Tony Robbins


Wise words from a wise man. But what does that tell us? Do more things, to find those that fit in your capabilities. And eventually it will get smoother. But that require patience. Patience to improve your skills by practice and reading. Where that is only the entry-level. Knowledge isn’t effective, wisdom is. Knowledge is simply potential power that will help you resolve an issue/problem for “x” amount of time. Wisdom, on the other hand is that what is saving your time. And perhaps you need to pay for it sometimes to save yours. Because by definition wisdom is extracted from long hours of expertise. Where that gives you the ability to see what actually brings awesome results, not only works.  It is awesome to be in that level, but in these ages of mediocrity it is hard to find your way to mastery.

That’s why average methods and solutions aren’t much demanded. They are everywhere. Where creative new traits are prone to be effective. For every thing there are some secret moves that save time. If you don’t know how to grill a burger patty you won’t do it faster than a cook will. And it is like that for everything. Specialization is effective. There are being more tech job created after every new emerging technology. They tend to be very narrow and deep in their subject matter. That’s why I can’t describe what my friends are working to my grandmother.

Lastly, with all that being said about excelling and chasing results and goals, there are a few more things to keep in mind. Sometimes it happens that we have the resources to do certain thins the best way possible, aka being effective and creative. But other times it isn’t the case. I am still getting myself to do those things. It is also a reminder for myself and I hope you find that post helpful too. Upgrade with patience. Enjoy the process.

PS: If you lost your key in the hash. Don’t dig for it, ask your roommate to make a duplicate for you. 🙂


Why we do what we do?

Why we do what we do? Is a question for our habits.

We tend to walk the path of least resistance. The power of habit, applies to everyone. 

Being constantly on a move and rushing doing countless things a day is certainly exhausting. And we all need to adapt to that dynamic everyday life nowadays. We all know what it is like. It consumes a lot of our energy and focus. But are we using them as efficient as possible? It is possibly hard to say “yes” to this question, but you are not alone. It’s a human nature to stick with our already existing habits.

Lets say you make a SMART goal towards something. Getting started requires action and effort. But more importantly it requires time for the process. In order to get from where are you right now to where you want to go, you need to change your habits. Why?Chances are that the person, who is already where you want to go has a different set of habits. A famous quote that supports that vision is from uncle Ben “With the big powers comes the big responsibility”.

Walking the path of change yourself, you will encounter a daily obstacles. obstacles for our current behaviour. Imagine, is your future self going to tackle the same issue, the same way you do in the moment? Perhaps the answer is no, well let’s get to action.

They are many self-improvement books out there in for giving you the right roadmap for changing your habits, improving your self etc. Yet my goal here is to motivate you to act on your own, because I need it as well. This is the way to make myself accountable for my words. And acountablity is a great tip to make you do something unpleasant. Your friends might be your best option. Another good tip is the “5sec rule”, described in the book by Mel Robins. Simply count backwards 5,4,3,2,1 Go! and take action. Nothing happens for us, that’s why we need to develop the spirit and the person who can get it. I imagine it like a computer game in which you develop a hero. Simply on level 1 you can’t kill a boss of higher level of yours. Which level are you aiming for?


Speaking about habits and behavior change there is an important note here. A key to understand is that “bad habits” or habits in general are not being deleted! They are being replaced. There is nothing like a void, empty slot in your habit set waiting for the a new one to be developed.  It is simply need to be substitute with another one.

A bad habit tends to be harder to break and easy to adopt. On the other hand, a proficient habit is easy to break and harder to adopt. That is the price.

3 Steps for substituting an old habit with a new one

A simple way to make that transition from an existing habit to adopting a new one:

  • Identify existing habits – outline the most you can around the one you are trying to substitute. Use time frame, circumstances, peer pressure and etc.
  • Pick a marker habit – this is going to be a habit that you are comfortable with. It’s purpose is to make you take action on the new one. It has to be immediately before or after the one you are adopting.
  • Trigger – your marker habit is also your trigger. A call to action!

These are the steps that will help you take action. And only action itself will erase the already existing neural pathways of your old habit. Replacement takes time and a lot of effort, mostly emotional not physical. Keep your head up by enjoying the action, after all you are changing with each step.

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