Hi beautiful people!
First of all what I would like to suggest to you is do not plan out your summer experience. At all! Yes don’t make any plans. Go with the flow. I do not mean to be passive and lazy, but instead try to surf through the waves of life, like a surfer in the ocean. We are all floating in a river, that carries you along the way. Some people are swimming against it, other however have learned that a good way to go through it is to swim with it. By going with the river you acquire its force.
It’s about wakeful trust and total collaboration with whats happening with you and inside your life at this point. Do not go with the mindset of making money either. It might sound crazy to some of you but bear with me for a while, I will explain myself. This opportunity to go overseas and visit a foreign country is not only about working three jobs from morning to evening and making paper.
Do not go there to get exploited and to work shitty jobs. What helped me along my journey was going there without any expectations and totally mind free. What you need to remember through your journey is the art of being PRESENT. So called living in the present moment. Here and now. You see, we humans are very strange beings. We stress about the future all the time, we cling onto past experiences, and if you think about it does it really make sense to do such thing? You cannot change the past, it has already happened, and the future is too uncertain. When you aren’t being present you become a victim of time. Your mind is pulled into the past or future, or both. You start to vibrate on lower frequencies and cannot make the best out of your everyday life. Enough for the present moment for now, I will explain it deeper in another post. Don’t stress, don’t pressure things and be patient.
Have you heard about the backwards law? A concept created and popularized by the western philosopher Alan Watts. Simply put, the backwards law is a paradoxical theory which states that the more you focus on something the less the chance that you will succeed. The harder you try to do something the less you are to accomplish it. The more that you pursue feeling better all the time, the more dissatisfied you end up being. Now, you cannot apply this to every aspect of your life. But try to remember it and use it sometimes when times get difficult. Simply step back, observe and let things sort themself out.
You want to use any travel experience to grow within and be the best version of yourself. Try to explore as much as you can and to socialize with different people everyday. Wake up every morning and have a positive mindset by thinking how you are going to meet interesting people and do some mad adventures.
Find a job offer that suits your needs. Housekeeping sucks,dishwashing sucks, working in a laundry room sucks. Best jobs offers are found in the hospitality environment. Such are bussers, servers, bartenders and anything that includes tips. These are the job offers that will get you the best money for the least time.
You can work from six to eight hours a day and save about 10000$ for 4 months working a server job or bartending which is the best job for a J1 student like you and me. What you do with the rest 16 or 18 hours is up to you. You can go to the beach to enjoy the sun, swim, hike, bike, go exploring,meditate or whatever comes to your mind. Think about something that will make your life good and help you in your future affairs. Invest in yourself at any time possible.
What I did is spend a lot of time in the woods and swim in the cold waters of Tahoe every single day! You have to make the best of every day because this experience doesn’t last that much, and it is such a great opportunity. It gets you out of your comfort zone, and this is the place where we grow as individuals and create ourselves.
You must become the creator of your life. The initiator and the observer. Not a victim of circumstances. You are the one who creates the circumstances and affect them, not the other way around.
I will give you a personal example. I got kicked out from my house and I became homeless but I didn’t stress or whined about my situation. I grabbed my hammock and went camping on the lake. I was waking up every morning with the sun shining in my eyes and after a gentle yoga I was in the lake swimming. What im saying is I accepted things as they are. Do no judje them. I knew in my head that I will figure something out. A week later I was living in a house with a mexican family.And their two little dogs – Gucci and Bonbon. Sometimes you have to look at things from a different perspective. Try to find light in every dark spot. Make the best out of every situation and ask yourself – Okay,what is the best thing I can go in this moment? Will it server me any good? Is it worth it?
Nothing is impossible, American employers love people who are initiative, open-minded and intelligent. You can work whatever you want and make as much money as you want as long as you believe it, and of course put the work!
Afterall our belief system plays a major part in our lives. You are what you BELIEVE you are. If you believe that you will be a housekeeper and work for shitty wage in a shitty hotel, then what do you expect? My last experience was a big experiment for me.
I went to the states at the last moment and worked in a cafe washing dishes. This went on for a month and I was pissed. In my head I knew that I was capable of doing something much more and that I had a big potential. Couple of days later I began working for a luxury club bartending and serving. How crazy is that? Before coming to the states I visualized in my head such thing. That I will work in a luxurious place with rich people.
I suggest you to read two books that will help you along your future journey in life.
Always try to find the cheapest accommodation. No more than 100$ per week!
And this is even too much!
Whatever people say, you can always find something low-priced and affordable.
I spent two summers in CA, and people always ask me the same thing – “Wasn’t it expensive?” No, I always tried to find the cheapest deal. “Seek and you will find”
A great method of transportation. It’s free and you meet new people. I mean how great is that? I lived 15km away from my workplace and instead of paying 2$ for a bus ride, i just hitchhiked every time i went to work. Fun!
Try to meet new people and make friends.
This is massive. You can create friendships for a lifetime with people all over the world! And guess what, it opens so many doors for you! You might meet your soul mate also,who knows.
It is not necessary to stay at a job that you don’t like and enjoy. I mean life is short, why make it unpleasant? Even if it’s your main offer from the agency, you can quit that and find something that is more valuable and worthy for you. Something fun, maybe a beach attendant? Of course engage in such things with wise mind and awareness.
In conclusion, I will give you a quote to contemplate on:
„Buy the ticket, take the ride“ – Hunter S. Thompson