Travelling Rant

Do you like to travel? Yes, you probably do. Although some of us are not daring to do it that is becoming more and more of a rhetorical question.

Traveling is supported by mainstream media, social media, airlines, tour agencies, friends and so on. They are all creating that imaginary lifestyle that we tend to read in the magazines. A mainstream message for a mainstream crowd.

But it wasn’t always like that. Years before the invention of the airplane in 1903 by the Wright Brothers, things were different. And even then they were no commercial flights for the masses. So what did the people do? Didn’t they wanted to travel for the weekend far away. Why shouldn’t they?

Perhaps that was the real game changer shifting from travel “to give” to “travel to get”.

None of us have lived in both those realms. Yet, we can imagine how the history shaped migration through the years. And that was far more interesting than a weekends escape from reality. Moreover from obligations and frames set by somebody else. Where in the times without media and lifestyle were obscure, people did traveled for other reasons.


It was dangerous, you could be killed and you may never see your family again. Imagine the quests of Marco Polo to find the Silk Road.  This courageous attempt led to more and more discovery and exploration. And we can see that he wanted something, but he gave along the way too. He didn’t purchase a safe economic flight to China, he instead sacrificed his life and went for an adventure. Then creating a mutual bond between the west and the east for the first time of history.

You probably have heard that story before. Well how that help me you might ask? It is very simple. Inspire to travel and learn, give and explore. Rather than just going out for the weekend. That is called sightseeing, it is almost like traveling, but in a commoditized form. It is shallow and purposeless leading to more consumerism and hedonism.

And I know you can argue that we don’t have time to travel or money or whatever is there stopping you. But we have choice, to go seek pleasure or explore other culture. There are infinite moves and documentaries nowadays that can show us what is it like there, where we want to go. This is hacking geography and rules that have framed people for centuries. We don’t have those boarders now, yet we waste them for egoistic goals instead.


They are all sorts of travel nowadays, the facts are that with every year the world is becoming more of a safer place.

We can choose our destination, our companions, the vehicle, the time and the activities. We have that freedom that most of us waste. We let some tour agencies decide what we would like, because we were generalized like the group before us. They offer us that what sells. It is a business, a very profitable one indeed.

So what are we left with? The reason I write this post is to bring awareness to a problem I see. It is the simple fact we have that much choices, but the stupidity of neglecting them.  I have recently read this book called Vagabonding, by Rolf Potts and I would recommend it to anyone willing to switch gears and embrace the true uncertainty of travelling.

I do have a lot of personal stories and experience in different countries, which I would like to share too. My preferences are for a meaningful mid-term travelling, speaking about a single place. The way I view it, I need at least 4 months to get to know a single place, perhaps even more. But that is the bare minimum to connect with the culture by talking with locals and doing your desirable activities.

PS: Customize your travel.

Where does competition leave us?

Competition is one side of the spectrum. Dive in to see the other.

Have you ever chase something just to be better than somebody else? Just making that much effort to step above the other and boost your ego?

Yesterday I was competing, and I lost the first match. Meaning you are out, direct eliminations. However, Jiu Jitsu is a wonderful sport and I believe that I meant to learn something from that experience. And I did.

Being calm and in the right mindset is essential for those moments. Also physical and skill preparation. But something was missing.


I had those moments of glory so to speak when I have won. I had times when I was down too. Being a winner is a personal trait, that could be cultivated. With a deliberate action and discipline towards a goal. It is programmed in our system, in our human brain that we need to win. Back in time that was on a life or death matter. A victory may be to kill a predator trying to eat you alive or to survive a hard weather conditions. Now we are barely left with a boost of ego from that. We seek victory to put ourselves in a better social position. With that there are more than some material benefits, but more of them aren’t. It is a vital feeling for a person to feel needed and helpful. However, victory is a level above that default level. It amplifies your sense of self, you get pretty proud and sufficient. And that can come from a lot of ways, not only from sports. Winning means progress, while it isn’t the only way.

Winners draw attention to themselves and we adore them. It is absolutely natural. But here is something we rarely consider. We no longer rely on “win” or “die” mentality to survive and live. Life is easy and we are getting more comfortable than ever. While there is no wonder why some of the best world-class athletes are coming from a background of low status family. Nearly surviving around the poverty line. Because they are already living in those harsh conditions and getting out is the only way.

It is vital for us to keep the cooperative part within us as well.

Imagine competition is the far left side of the spectrum and cooperation is the far right side. When we are not cooperating we are competing and the vice versa. Why is that? Simply because when you pursue your desire to win you are being driven by a pushing force within you. With other words you are intrinsically motivated to win, you push yourself. While cooperation is the opposite, you are being pulled to contribute to the whole team, you are being pulled to act for the common good. Where, there is no good or bad between those two. But you are either on one side of the spectrum or the other. So what is in the middle than? An indecisive person trying to do both in the mean time. I felt that was what I experienced on my last competition. And cooperation is thus far more important for me. I have always been more cooperative than competitive. There was this moment, when I was still going to taekwondo competitions. In fact I was like twelve years old or close. I vividly remember that series of competitions where me and another kid from the club were fighting versus each other. That was so stupid for me, I couldn’t play my best. Where those fights were the finals. It was beautiful how we climbed after each fight to finally meat at the top, but being there was awkward.


A prediction on a global scale is that we are going to dispensary as a civilization, if we don’t change the rules of the game. We are not allowed to win that with anger and fist fight, but with a much more intelligent way. Helping everybody to start even and finish where they want. But living in cooperation is hard. We all seek that next benefit for ourselves and we ain’t willing to share it. It is hard to build a foundation where everybody is going to be socially responsible for his own acts. However, there are much more entrepreneurs and businesses who start making those decisions to strive for mutual good. For increasing life standard ubiquitously. 

Finding peace within yourself

Finding peace within yourself is a process of disconnecting and reconnecting back with more clarity to your own reality

Many of us are terrified by living alone. Not even living, just by the simple though that you will be alone in the crowd.

Let me tell you what is on the other side. I like being alone, even though I consider myself extroverted. It brings me peace and serenity. Knowing yourself is not a phrase for maturity, rather it’s a exploration process into the self. And that beings with resistance…

It takes time to change the feeling of discomfort , with less uncomfort. It will decrease with time.However, it will never go away. My goal isn’t to make you ditch your friends and reconsider moving into a cave. It is simply to harness your harmony within you.

Have you ever stayed outside, in cold weather, very cold. Where you didn’t have any gloves and your hands start to freeze. It feels like time isn’t going nowhere, wile you are trying to find a warm pocket for them. But when you do, oh man, didn’t they burn after that? Like some kind of chilling fire, if there is such a thing at all. This is perhaps the same feeling you will experience when you are alone, trying to figure out where are you in place and time. It will be very cold In the beginning, but when you accept it and get used to it over time, it will make perfect sense.

We are social creatures first and foremost. Of course we are, that’s why one of the biggest fears of humanity is to be left alone. Back in the days people, were dying because of this. Fast forward, nowadays we have much better scenario. But for what reason?

I believe that living a while detached from friends and family will give you new ideas to mind. Personally I know that people around me can easily influence me with new interesting ideas. Meaning I am very open-minded. Where spending time with friends usually lead to the same things. Or maybe you will get motivated, from a YouTube video, and try something new. But the chances are it won’t stick around. People don’t like change. It’s just in our nature.

Taking time for yourself is like disconnecting and reconnecting to life.

Switching your familiar environment with a radically different one is getting you out of your biases. Not so fast as you read it though. It takes time to think of an idea and get courageous about it. At least that’s me. But time spend is nothing, if you find your gift in life during the search. That is what I am looking forward!

Ps: I love my friends and family. I can’t wait to see them, after those last eight months abroad. But I would perhaps never wrote this post otherwise.

When you are lost

When you are lost is a time to act even more!

Everybody gets at place in time, where they are in between a crossroad, perhaps with multiple exits. And this is mine.

In this age of revolutionary technologies creating spacecrafts and virtual realities we have absolute infinite possibilities. How can we tap into those is our personal choice and responsibility. However, I found it very hard to choose a medium. Business is a big one, but is it really a medium or even a smaller section of the spectrum? Speaking from my observations I see many friends, from cross countries, that constantly change jobs. Throughout our working life we specialize deeper and deeper. We get a new job and suddenly from there we see something related to what we want to do, but not exactly. Which leads to the next, where we see another subtle thing that redirect us to another domain. But eventually we are going to reach that point of less things to try and much to upgrade. Meaning its time to commit and specialize.

Life is based on decisions, and those can be especially hard to make when you are young. Isn’t it funny that the most important decisions in our life are in our 20’s, when we are not that mature. We ought to make them better in any case, for personal benefits – generally. But it is true.


The earlier you decide the faster you are going to see if that is the right decision or not. Action is a tool, in this case, to test decisions. You are melting time with action, much faster than with thinking about stuff. Why? Simply because action gives you feedback that you need and thinking give you nothing in return, by itself only.

Life choices over time are going to bring value, doesn’t matter which way we take. It is going to lead us to the right destination. Having faith is key to honor your decisions. You honor them everyday with action.  Only if you believe that you are making the right choice. Make a choice and never look back. At least for some time.

Keep in mind that from making a choice. That decision is sealing the commitment that is putting you in a situation, in witch new choices emerge. It never ends. Why not get better at it than?

When you are lost is time to act even more

I am a fan of the following quote “Live your life in your 20’s as you are planting the seeds you are going to harvest at your 30’s”. Which I directly relate with experimentation, but that needs to be measured, wisely. Any new endeavor is gonna give you something, however it takes time. And time to reflect about it, is in fact saving time. Simply give yourself time to try out something new, but go hard in it. Like a new internship, it takes 3-4 months, sometimes even six. Later evaluate and decide if you are going to enroll or switch lanes (gangsta). Ask yourself what is valuable and go for it. Both for you and society. Where you are the one doing it, you will be the one struggling/enjoying and society is going to reject/appreciate it.

PS: Everybody has a lifestyle, the difference is who made yours. Is it self created, copied or influenced ? 

How to create your own social norms

What are social norms for us? And how to change them if we don’t like them.

Everybody talks about modern society today, moving from old-fashioned traditional habits to more efficient high-tech massaging apps. Is that the future way of communication ? Or there is a better way to approach somebody? 

It is a hard question, at least I haven’t found the right answer yet. Some of us are more introverted and others are extroverted. We all know that extroverts draw energy, when having conversation with people and conversely introverts gain energy in solitude. And that topic has become so mainstream, where society pushes us to be always socially active, aka extroverts. But here is what we might miss sometimes.

The truth is that we are both in the same time. But some of us are more of extrovert than others and some of us are more introvert than others. Those are the two ends of the same spectrum. Those personal qualities are coming from the Myers-Brings model, but not so far the only criteria for a real vs online communication.

When we move from small cities to big metropolises we enter that new level of society. Where we don’t have that much friends as we have used to in the small city. But there is no problem, dating businesses and modern technology are working together for us. They have created an online solution for those of us who justify themselves as “introverted”. It is easier to get online and message somebody without the need of going out. Even as an extrovert i am willing to do that more often. When was the last time you decided to go alone to meet new friends. Is that scary?


Here is the main reason why we stay so much indoors nowadays. Technology have changed a lot of our lifestyle. That is no secret for anybody. But the way it changed human communication is unbelievable. We have erased so much “social operations” from last century that some of us, haven’t even tried. For example going to the library instead of looking something online, doing your laundry  in some public place, buying magazines and newspapers. And a lot of other meetings like auctions and other social activities that nowadays are being held online, instead of in the real world.

Add more randomness in your life. That’s how new stories happen.

Push notifications are constantly poking is for attention. They are seriously taking advantage of our space and time. Because being alone isn’t praised in society. In fact I would say that is mandatory to have those moments for yourself. It makes us relax and detach from work and obligations. And reconnect with ourselves. That time is needed in order to establish your own boundaries. Otherwise we are constantly being called to join someone elses event and neglect ourselves . Those boundaries are preserving our goals. That is the true power of being alone for a while. Also it adds a possibility of randomness in your life. Think about how many interesting stories can happen if you decide to be free and outgoing for while.

Leaving technology for a while will make us far more outgoing. Doesn’t matter if you are extroverted or introverted. When was the last time you didn’t have a laptop at home or a phone? Those moments also improve our attention spawn to recover and help our decision-making skills get better.

PS: Modern society offers us the great opportunity to choose how to design our lifestyles. Being liberal, not traditional. But you have to disconnect from the mainstream first 🙂